Yes, you can.
And for many people, this becomes one of the most meaningful parts of recording a video eulogy.
When you realise you have the chance to speak in your own voice, it’s natural to think about the people who matter most to you. You might picture a partner, a close friend, your children, or even someone you’ve lost touch with but still carry in your thoughts. This space allows you to speak directly to them, in a way that feels natural and unfiltered.
There’s no set structure you have to follow.
Some people choose to include a few short, personal messages woven into their broader story. Others prefer to set aside a small portion of their recording to speak directly to specific individuals. Either way is completely okay.
What matters is that it feels like you.
You might want to say thank you to someone who stood by you during a difficult time. You might want to share something you’ve never quite found the right moment to say. Or you might simply want to leave a few words of reassurance, knowing that hearing your voice later on will carry a different kind of comfort.
It’s also worth remembering that this recording is usually around eight minutes long.
That can sound short at first, but it often helps bring clarity. Instead of trying to say everything, you’re gently guided to focus on what feels most important. If there are a few people you’d like to speak to, you can keep each message simple and sincere. A sentence or two, spoken in your own way, can stay with someone far longer than something carefully polished.
If you’re worried about getting it right, you don’t need to be.
You can re-record your video as many times as you need. That takes the pressure off. You can try different versions, adjust what you say, or take a moment to think before coming back to it. There’s no expectation for it to be perfect.
Some people also find it helpful to write a few notes beforehand.
Not a full script, just a guide. A name, a memory, or a few words you want to include. That way, when you’re recording, you’re not searching for what to say—you’re simply speaking from it.
And if you decide not to include specific messages, that’s completely fine too.
A video eulogy doesn’t have to cover everything or everyone. Sometimes a general reflection, spoken honestly, reaches the people who need to hear it in ways you can’t fully predict.
At its core, this is about giving you the chance to speak in your own voice.
Whether that includes personal messages or not, what matters most is that it sounds like you—and that the people listening feel that.
